Hello there!

So you wanted to know a bit more about me, did you? *smile*

The "gun" in my hand is a cupping gun, used to create a vacuum in a small cup that is moistened around the rim (to make a good seal) and then placed upon the skin. The air is then removed via the "gun", drawing the skin up and into the cup. It's an ancient Chinese medicinal therapy, which lends itself to devious and at times sadistic ideas. *smile*

One of my biggest fetishes is knowing and understanding all fetishes, whether or not I personally find them appealing or something I'd like to do myself. As a result of my quest for knowledge, I have found not many things surprise me anymore, lol. Humans are an interesting species, to say the very least. I have also found in my exploration many things that seem to really "click" with me - and naturally - many that do not. That being said I am launching into my latest project, which revolves around my biggest fetish - that of understanding, learning about, knowing about all fetishes, those I like and incorporate into my life, and those I do not - which is an interactive fetish resource site: www.thefetishforums.com

I am a switch, though I struggle with my duality on a daily and sometimes hourly basis. Submission is not an easy thing for me, in part because I am primarily dominant. I *do* have a dominant and a partner in my life, however our relationship is not the typical BDSM relationship you will come across. We are poly to some extent, however, we will not fluid bond with others. We AREN'T interested in cuckolds, or having a fluid bonded slave, so don't even go there. My property is MY property and even he knows not to go there. *smile* For those that are interested, 95% of the time we operate as equals. To submit to someone is a hard thing for me, and there are times that I simply cannot reach that part of myself. In many ways I don't think that I really fit inside the submissive label, because SO much of who I am is opposite of that, but the term bottom doesn't really seem to fit me very well either. As I have said earlier, labels and me never *do* mesh well together. And that suits me JUST fine. *chortle*

I have explored female supremacy and financial fetishes a bit over the last 2 years, and I've found that I don't seem to really see things the way others do. Female supremacy for instance, for me, has been taking a strange detour through the landscapes of my mind. I enjoy many aspects of female supremacy but many of them don't really mesh with me at all.

Those two fetishes (and yes, for *me* both are just fetishes) are somewhat recent additions of what I enjoy as a dominant, woman, and as a human. Just I have discovered that for the most part it simply doesn't really do much for me. Maybe with the right person, perhaps if it was a part of a deep exchange far deeper than merely what either one of those alone could be for me. I've come to find, through many many lengthy discussions with various individuals and groups, that my views don't seem to fit neatly inside a trite phrase. Seems that they rarely do in my case, *smile*. For me, female supremacy seems to be something that doesn't really sit well with me in all aspects - perhaps even *most* aspects - at least what I generally see paraded around in the online world. Then again what in the online world ever really touches on the same bases as real life? I enjoy the mind set of being the "supreme female". I enjoy the mind set of the male seeing himself as a lower being - but basically, just not the entire freaking time I am interacting with them. However, I do NOT enjoy the automatic assumption that on the basis of gender all women are superior to all males 100% of the time. I guess that's the difference of being a lifestyle female supremacist and viewing it as a fetish. I like men. I don't hate them. While in a designated female supremacy space, however, I do expect all males to be respectful and to know their place, after all, when in such a space, I am in that particular mind set, and really that's what that space's protocol will generally be geared for and expect to some degree. Needless to say you won't find me in tons of spaces like that all the time - just gets too boring for me. lol.

I guess what I really find I enjoy is not so much female supremacy, but rather feminine power. That seems to fit me far better than the term female supremacy. I love toying with men, and having my way with them. I love using feminine wiles and power to subjugate and dominate and reign over the male gender, in a fun, but healthy way. However, that is not to say that I am averse to dominating women, just that the female supremacy thang doesn't really tend to mesh well, for the obvious reasons, LOL. Female supremacy for me, seems rife with the mind set of: "males don't matter, they are less than human". Now, don't get me wrong I *adore* playing on and with that premise, but the reality is, as a dominant, and a human I *do* care whether or not the guy is in a good space. Humiliation is a fun thing for me, but I just don't REALLY see them as scum. I guess what triggered this realization that I'm different is my observation that the fetish of female supremacy, by the majority online that seem to have NO real idea what basic domination is, has mutated into something I find to be unhealthy and downright ugly.

I think the mutation started slowly, with a few ladies. I have a theory about this posted on my Doctrine page. (Keep in mind that most of those that have claimed to be a female supremacist that I have run into also seem to be entrenched in the financial fetishes realm. I *do* think that there is a connection there. I have quite a different take on financial fetishes, which sadly doesn't seem to be echoed by most of those claiming that fetish, and is one big reason I stopped doing it over a year and a ½ ago. I have no plans to really explore it again, though I suppose r/t with the right person might be possible, I simply doubt that it is a likely thing I'll find myself wanting to occur, lol.)

I think for some, it's a form of edge play, they feel they are being hardcore, extreme. For the most part what I see is extreme stupidity and greed. Edge play doesn't mean REALLY cutting off a limb, it means making them THINK you will, for the duration of a scene, but trusting you enough to take them to that scary place for a while.

I firmly believe that just because one has power does not mean they NEED/HAVE TO to use it, to show or know it exists. Sometimes one can demonstrate their control and power by NOT using it ... if you can't understand that ... then we most likely will not click.

Sex? Don't even fantasize. NOT going to happen.That means NO sex will EVER be granted for ANY reason. Did you get that?? I will NOT EVER have sexual realtions of ANY kind with you - I am SO not interested, and NO you *aren't* the dude to change my mind on that.

I do tend to alternate between being gentle and caring to sadistic and cruel of those I dominate. I believe a good submissive is molded with guidance, patience, recognition, and nurturing, as well as discipline, rules, rewards, and punishment. I have an excellent, quirky sense of humour (I adore making obscure and literal jokes), and I delight in using it. I take my time when considering a submissive. I will not be rushed, nor cajoled or talked into moving faster than my normal pace. I also test those that seek to be owned by me. I will ask questions just to see how you answer. Don't try to be clever and guess or be one step ahead of me. Chances are you will be wrong, and I was just seeing how you will respond.

I enjoy being pampered and spoiled via a submissive's service to me, because that is the way I think women should be treated, and it is their place to do so because they long to make me smile and make my life easier and lighter of heart through their service to me.